Reply To: Otro Mexicano…..

[Noel]

Ola Belle:

So sad to hear about your recent problem with el asshole…

Listen, college education’s are nice but the chances of Mexican doctors and lawyers comming here, where they would have to learn the language and be in complete competition with doctors who speak it fluently and have citizenship, is slim. Not that there aren’t any but it’s just easier to stay put. You are right though, majority of latino’s comming into our country are not educated to university standards. Some have no education at all but that doesn’t make them undesirable.
I’ve met a lot of migrants and illegal’s who can assimilate damn well. Down to proper etiquette and education.
There is a viral video going around of a Mexican migrant worker who answers Donal Trumps accusations with curses and the type of spanish that you would find in the poorer neighborhoods but he makes a point that he is a hard worker, not robbing anyone, and he pays his tax’s. Typical Mexican migrant workers.

Same goes for latinos from other countries mine included.

When my Columbian wife tossed me on my ass, for being a typical Puerto Rican drunk, I ended up hitting bottom. I cleaned myself up and never looked back. When I started dating, a year and half later, I put my son as the barometer for whom ever I was with. I had to think that if I ended up with this person she would have to be a right fit for my son. Consequently I broke off quite a few relationships because it just was not the right fit. Eventually I met my wife. She turned out to be a perfect fit. With my little boy it was never again going to be about me. It was all him.

My point is that everyone has a capacity to change the thing is you have to be able to weed out the ones who are just fuck ups and the ones who may be a little rough around the edges but are genuinely good people. You may find the latter at a church gathering but then that presents a whole slew of issues, mainly, you’re an atheist.

My advice? Go slow. We weren’t raised in the suburbs with inground swimming pools and friends named Buffy. But we did go to school and got some semblence of an education, and we learned or taught ourselves social skills that smoothed out some of our rougher edges.

In AA I learned that you can’t change anyone. You can just keep the focus and yourself and work on those rougher edges. If I go into a relationship looking to have to change the other person it’s not a good fit on account of I’m still so fucked up it’s a struggle to change me…Let alone someone else’s issue’s. Easy does it kiddo. This too shall pass…

Haven’t told you lately but single mother’s are amazing. And you Belle are really amazing…