Reply To: Dealing with Grief After Forsaking Religion

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My father died in Feb. 2013 after I had cared for him on a daily basis for a little over a year. My dad was beloved by all of his children. A great guy who always gave Christian love (I’m not a Christian, but he was) and was generous to a fault without ever asking for anything in return. He was that other kind of Christian who is seldom talked about here. One of the good ones.

When he died, it was after a lot of suffering and humiliation (I had to clean up after his occasional “accidents”), so I was glad for him when his time came.

Like my siblings, we deal with his death by simply remembering him and his goodness. He died shortly after turning 93, so it’s not like he didn’t live a long life.

We know that the same fate awaits us all. We also know that weeping and wailing and gnashing of teeth won’t bring him back. Instead, we simply remember him and his goodness and try to treat others as he would as a way of paying tribute.