The importance of community in navigating rough waters

[.Spectator]

I will be the first to admit, I still on occasion listen to Focus on the Family. I do occasionally learn new things about being a better parent, and a stronger person. I’ve learned that every time they talk about “God” I just think about myself. For example if they say, “Trust in God” I take the message as “Trust yourself.”….

Today there was actually a really good program on about being single. Of course in the Christian community it’s expected that you’ll be married or want to be married, but there was a single woman on who had written a book and she was giving some tips on dating. One of the things I thought she was SPOT on about was the idea that you need to have friends or family around you to know if you’re basically headed over a cliff. I think for myself that is definitely true. I have decided that from now on, for MYSELF, before I go on a “real” date (I consider a real date like going to dinner, I don’t consider going for coffee a date but just meeting up to SEE if you want to date…just to clarify…) – Before I date ANYONE, I’m going to talk about the person, possibly in this group for feedback and an objective opinion. I don’t have people in my life in the real world that aren’t in other states, but I of course am going to rely on my girlfriends too. The only things is all my girlfriends are Christians and they also haven’t been through a lot of the stuff I have. They tend to think through things more emotionally and they won’t give me an HONEST assessment like I know people from this community will. I KNOW that the people here will give me an honest non-sugarcoated opinion. So….

I’m just putting this out there.

I’m also curious if other singles have ran into trouble dating as an atheist. I for example have been really wanting to go to the local atheist groups that are around. I’ve been a little afraid to. Mostly because I have my son with me most of the time and I don’t know if it’s all kid friendly. But…I think I’m going to start putting myself out there more, but I am hoping to start SLOW…..I don’t want to actually be in a relationship yet. I’m not ready for that. I AM ready to start making friends. And if someone starts to become of interest I might as you all for your opinion about stuff….to make sure I’m not headed over (another) cliff, lol…

[PopeBeanieModerator]

I seriously think… no, I know that my worldview is so unusual but solid that the only way I can find someone compatible with me is by putting myself out there with higher visibility. I’ve only gone after a couple girls, and the one that worked best for me came to me by way of word of mouth, and when I least expected it.

[Simon PayntonParticipant]

I agree, @popebeanie. PUtting yourself around is the only way to meet people in a natural way. Staying indoors and watching the flies fuck doesn’t get you anywhere.

[PopeBeanieModerator]

Staying indoors and watching the flies fuck doesn’t get you anywhere.

WTF?!?! That was YOUR spycam in my kitchen?

[SteveInCOParticipant]

If there’s one conclusion I can come to after fifty years of watching other hominids, it is that there is someone, somewhere, who thinks fly porn is hot.

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