The reason women can have abortions was laid out in Roe v Wade in the Supreme Court in 1973 – it has to do with autonomy over ones own body. It has nothing to do with rape – rape was cited as an extreme circumstance wherein those people who object to a woman having an abortion might find some grey area to agree. I still find it astonishing that America has such an issue with OTHER PEOPLE having abortions.
The example Belle cited, of a woman secretly not taking her contraceptive pill in order to get pregnant agains her partners wishes, is probably the closest parallel to the case you are describing – IVF has just modernized the activity.
Once the man handed his sperm over to the IVF bank, with a designate purpose, he pretty much lost control over it. Yes sure there was fraud, but you can’t send the baby back to the sperm bank – it exists. I think the woman acted in an illegal and wrongful way, and it’s a tough price that would be laid on the father regarding child support, but what alternative is there? You know the state is never going to offer to pay, so…. what are you suggesting? Who finances the child?