marulimarulaki

@marulimarulaki – I take your points.  I think that your Epicurean individualism corresponds with my small-group interpersonal morality of egalitarianism, liberty, helping, and fairness.

My implication is that unconditional love is for someone who deserves it, and of course, it has to be given voluntarily, or rather, involuntarily.  But we can t…[Read more]

@marulimarulaki – it sounds like your partner has inherited a “transactional” mindset from his religious upbringing, where life is a series of + and – in the ethical or deserving column of an accounts book.  If I do something good, that earns me the right to do something bad.  That’s not how a healthy life should be.  Unconditional love should be…[Read more]

@marulimarulaki – When he does not agree with my behavior he sometimes feels justified to hurt me knowingly.

What is the method by which he hurts you? Is it verbal abuse or is it physical? Both are forms of unacceptable behavior but physical abuse cannot be tolerated. Once is once too often. You are correct in saying that you consider it as an…[Read more]