Why does society as a whole, blame women for getting raped? It’s when they are perceived to be “out of line” – to take responsibility for their own sexuality. As such, it’s just a generalised continuation of primate mate-guarding of females by dominant males.
I don’t feel that #metoo is calling me an “asshole”. I think that any backlash comes from: 1) sexist rapey men like Trump; 2) Men Going Their Own Way types who always resist any increase in women’s autonomy.