Sidney Winston

Simon Paynton wrote:

Kristina wrote:
But when it’s being posed as an ethical hypothetical, I do think it is important to not pander to normative values too much.

But what if it’s a potential reality? There would be no transgressive benefit in having a picnic on someone’s grave, it wouldn’t benefit anybody, except that the people having the pic…

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Kristina wrote:
But when it’s being posed as an ethical hypothetical, I do think it is important to not pander to normative values too much.

But what if it’s a potential reality?  There would be no transgressive benefit in having a picnic on someone’s grave, it wouldn’t benefit anybody, except that the people having the picnic would have a ni…[Read more]

Davis wrote:
I would agree with you Kristina. But this is a deontological moral law. So it is always relative to the person to frames the law (even if they will that others also follow that law). In that sense, if you do have a good reason to challenge it then the law wouldn’t follow.

I guess what I am getting as is I don’t think I could form a r…[Read more]

I would agree with you Kristina. But this is a deontological moral law. So it is always relative to the person to frames the law (even if they will that others also follow that law). In that sense, if you do have a good reason to challenge it then the law wouldn’t follow. Since I cannot for the life of me think of a reason why having a picnic on…[Read more]

Kristina wrote:

The problem is, the suffering of the bereaved and what causes it is variable. It may seem like a simple issue to resolve when we consider that no one is likely offended that people don’t have picnics on their loved one’s grave sites, whereas at least some (many?) people are offended when people do have picnics on their loved one…

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 are heavily outweighed by the consequences to the bereaved family. In other words it is difficult to imagine how “someone feeling empowered to have a picnic in place x when a million other places are just as convenient at the cost of hurting the bereaved and violating a solemn space” could contribute in any way to the maximising general soci…

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I understand the resistance to saying: yes it is immoral or no it is not. Because it is a difficult one to defend (not because it is necessarily relative). It seems  the general answer here is: it is in bad taste.

However I do believe it is immoral in some moral systems. Deontological, utilitarian or virtue ethics to name just three (though it…[Read more]

Robert and Reg,

You are both right here too.  Quality people as company should be an understood in fine dining outdoors.

Eduard Manet had a possible right idea in his Déjeuner Sur l’Herbe (Luncheon on the Grass) which, of course, you could vary to taste:

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Over the last year I have moved some people I was acquainted with into my “poison pool”. I will no longer seek to engage with them in any format.  These are people who always seem to want something from me or if not, have nothing positive to say about other people.  I had time to reflect and had a few “Hang on a minute” moments.

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All due respect to the dead, of course, but they just aren’t good, fun conversation over great food.

The dead in their silence are much more pleasant than many of the people around here. The plague has taught me again that I am happier without them and I that I should be more selective with my associations. I learned this once before when trying t…[Read more]

Davis and Fellow Unbelievers,

I’d much rather be surrounded by life and lively things on an outdoor eating excursion.

All due respect to the dead, of course, but they just aren’t good, fun conversation over great food.

I see what you might be doing, Simon, but let the non-existent bury the non-existent. 😉

Simon Paynton wrote:
I wouldn’t sit on somebody’s tomb and have a picnic, unless it was about 2000 years old.

A 2000 year old gravesite would likely be a national monument or world historical site, so you’d probably be subject to arrest.

I once spent an night on my own in a very old rural graveyard after taking a large dose of magic mushrooms. I spent most of the time imagining who each person may have been. I was about 18 at the time.  While the dead would not care if I danced on their graves I don’t think I would because of the anguish it might cause to the relatives of the…[Read more]

lol

Simon Paynton wrote:
I wouldn’t sit on somebody’s tomb and have a picnic, unless it was about 2000 years old.

Why would you eat from a 2000-year-old picnic? You’d get sick, Simon.

I wouldn’t sit on somebody’s tomb and have a picnic, unless it was about 2000 years old.

Older gaveyards (or old sections) are beautiful and have interesting headstones and statuary and I think it is cool to picnic there, especially at night.

A picnic in a modern section is in poor taste and might needlessly upset some people, but in the big picture it is pretty minor.

New Orleans Cemetery has old and new mixed and even has ‘tours’…[Read more]

I don’t think there is a specific answer that works. If my family memorialized that way, I’d prefer people use the space for joyous things.

Still, cemeteries are for the living, ultimately, and the living are pretty inconsistent in terms of customs, expectations, sense of propriety.

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“On top” of the grave? Poor taste at best, though I think a graveyard should not be treated like a public amusement area. So, wrong in that sense, yeah.