Emma Leigh

Spend some time listening to Rory Gallagher and you will be inspired. It could be his heavy blues or something like this, a song that gets me almost every time I hear it (Especially after some good weed).

Just look at the guitar and you will hit the play button 🙂

Another of my favorites when I’m depressed:

https://youtu.be/kLBaNDQ6Ng8

People ain’t no good.

I can’t find the Mad World vid with the clown.

Hay lady, shut the fuck up and play the dam song.
And you are laghing! I can’t judge it if you keep inserting your idiotic opinion every 5 seconds.
I sometimes sing along with ‘Mad World’ when I’m depressed. So I hate this version.
I might have liked it if I took it as a mad version. But what’s-her-name spun it as silly. She ruined a great song.…[Read more]

Now, I feel I owe you a little more on the song, digging a little deeper.

When I was doing photography of women I invented some categories of beauty and, bizarrely, I can illustrate the three most common ones using the three sisters comprising The Warning. These are the three main types of beauty, then: there is hot, which is Daniela/Dany; cute,…[Read more]

While currently my favorite songs are “23” and “Breathe” by The Warning’s drummer, Pau.

However, long term. the one I keep coming back to is “Here With Me” by Dido.

I confirmed its place in my heart when I played it just now and found myself weeping.

The combination of a great song, a singer with a very special voice, and a genuine cleancut…[Read more]

Unseen wrote:
Do you want the music or someone else’s reaction to the music?

Either’s fine. I’m just hoping for some explanation of why it’s extra-special to you and consistently at the very top of your list. It can be written by you and/or verbalized by a reactor made available with a link.

(I find it difficult to NOT post a bunch more of my f…[Read more]

Let me start off with a question. Do you want the music or someone else’s reaction to the music?

Simon Paynton wrote:
It sounds like the guy didn’t know he was hurting people by ghosting them, when he should have done, because he was. Maybe British people are used to it, it’s normal to them, so they expect it. He had a failure of empathy (cognitive perspective-taking) driven by a lack of empathic concern (caring). He should have cared eno…

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It sounds like the guy didn’t know he was hurting people by ghosting them, when he should have done, because he was.  Maybe British people are used to it, it’s normal to them, so they expect it.

He had a failure of empathy (cognitive perspective-taking) driven by a lack of empathic concern (caring).  He should have cared enough about someone he w…[Read more]

Pope, you definitely touched on a genuine aspect of why ghosting is so easy. For some people it does require flexing unflexed muscles. In my work, we have to use extreme care with everyword and put significant thought into how we phrase things. This is the opposite of typical locker room talk, where in my icehockey changeroom every ginger is…[Read more]

Thanks for all your replies. I would say that you don’t have to be specific when letting someone down. In your trans case, just tell the person you’re sorry for wasting their time, you aren’t feeling it and wish them the best.

To give you an idea of how prevalent ghosti g is in Scotland, I had chatted with a lad for 5 weeks, almost daily.…[Read more]

In the context of this group, and your topic, specific question and my experience, I don’t think much in terms of valence wrt morality or what’s “wrong”. I focus on improving my recognition and employment of empathy, which has been a decades long process for me. I’d say that empathy plus objectivity, together with limitations on expectations and…[Read more]

I’ve not yet read other responses, to give my most unbiased opinion. Although I’m sure I’m a cultural outlier, I’m also fairly sure that my affinity to bonding with friends, and my level of empathy for strangers lie near the end of a human scale that goes from “really want it and need it, and take this personally” to “meh, I’m not into it and to…[Read more]

TheEncogitationer wrote:
Oh, and “ghosting” bills you’ve voluntarily assumed is a shit move, especially with Medical professionals who are oath-bound to “First, do no harm” and to sustain human life.

At least make payment arrangements and pay what little you can until it’s all knocked out. No debt lasts to infinity unless you never pay it.

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_Robert_ wrote:
At any given time, I’d say 20% of daters get about 80% of the action. The people everyone wants to be with. They will ghost you and not even think about.

I once saw a piece about a guy who claimed to have sex with different women several times a week. His secret: Just hang out, develop a quick rapport, and ask them up front, “…[Read more]

Fellow Unbelievers,

Oh, and “ghosting” bills you’ve voluntarily assumed is a shit move, especially with Medical professionals who are oath-bound to “First, do no harm” and to sustain human life.

At least make payment arrangements and pay what little you can until it’s all knocked out. No debt lasts to infinity unless you never pay it.