Kuba Adamów

_Robert_ wrote:
The word “culture” implies that such behavior is acceptable by our society.

I’m using “culture” in the meaning of a shared set of values, practices, knowledge, etc., of a group.  It’s morally neutral.  However, it contains its own version of morality.

Rape culture is pretty much defined as a spectrum of behaviour that wilfully breaches somebody’s intimate and sexual rights of consent and self-determination.

Davis wrote:
I hear guys joking about raping women as though it’s not a big deal. Jokes about how they have coerced drunken women into doing things they likely regretted (with high fives) and sharing tactics on how they can manipulate women into doing things.

It’s difficult, but challenging these things goes a long way.  People know that rape is…[Read more]

Reg the Fronkey Farmer wrote:
So, on the spectrum of severity which is of greater severity…A slap to the face today or no slap to the face today?

A slap or a rape.  There’s a spectrum of something going on there, perhaps in terms of intrusiveness of boundaries and injury caused.  It’s objective: the facts of what happened.  But the subj…[Read more]

See, Robert is a prime example of covering up and pretending rape culture isn’t a problem (especially with his toxic tropes like “cat calling” can be okay though “not if he is ugly” bullshit). And he is more progressive than a lot of men. It is a prime illustration of how much progress is left to be made.

In my ice hockey locker room, I hear guys…[Read more]

Reg the Fronkey Farmer wrote:
Is some of it sort of OK when compared to the severe cases?

OK, it’s on a spectrum from severe to more severe.  If boys knew this, it might make them think twice if their behaviour is shown to be on a spectrum with rape.

Davis wrote:
I’m less concerned by men who get defensive over the above, and more by the general slowness in tackling rape culture in general.

I don’t seem to come across it much.  Andrew Tate is the patron saint of rape culture.  It was @robert who said that rape culture is a spectrum of behaviour from mild to severe, and this would be a goo…[Read more]

Yeah I’m quite aware of that. I tend to date big guys (rugby player types) and I have been in more than a few situations where I had to physically stop them after asking them to a few times and them ignoring me. I started becoming super careful afterwards. And I am a big guy who can fight back. So yes, could not agree more, on the whole, women can…[Read more]

But realistically, men aren’t actually being accused of being rapists, just of being dangerous, which I think is really a fair point.  It’s clear that men as a species are potentially lethal to women.  So, men should just suck it up if women are suspicious of them – it’s rational for women to be that way.

Also, men are the physically stronger (…[Read more]

I agree, that some men get offended when rape culture is pointed out, as in, pointing out that other men engage in rape culture is tantamount to lumping them in with that rape culture. That is seriously problematic, the sensible reaction should be “yeah, that is a problem, I stand with all victims of rape culture”. But if all men are being painted…[Read more]

TheEncogitationer wrote:
Don’t lump the innocent in with predators in the name of either religion nor ideology!

It would be good if the innocent weren’t so sensitive, because they shouldn’t mind being tarred with a brush because of the seriousness of the peril and danger for women coming from a minority of men.

Reg the Fronkey Farmer wrote:
Saying it out loud in public shows just how fucked religious morality is. I do not take his apology as being sincere.

That’s true – it shows how religion can warp normal morality.  I find that religion is a moral domain in itself, which has a slightly different agenda (worshipping God? – broadly) than mutual…[Read more]

Reg the Fronkey Farmer wrote:
After saying women who wear shorts deserve to be raped, pastor admits “I was wrong”.

This is the best news I’ve heard all week, in that not many people can admit they’re wrong these days.