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I’ve just said I’ve been in rapey situations, and instead of anyone going “I’m sorry to hear that, that’s bad, those guys shouldn’t have done that” I get “maybe you should pick these guys more carefully”. This is classic rape culture enabling. The nicest seeming guy in the world can turn out to be rapey.

I’m glad to hear you haven’t come across…[Read more]

Simon Paynton wrote:
Anecdotal. I heard about it happening to actual people, and also the feminists were complaining about it.

Come on Simon. Even you has to know that such evidence only prove you have questionable taste in whom you choose as friends and associates and the wife-beating circles they move in. Either that or The Gods of Randomness…[Read more]

Simon Paynton wrote:
Wife-beating used to be the norm in left-wing circles, long before they got into feminism.

If I express a huge degree of skepticism, what proof or even evidence tending to support that assertion do you have?

@ Simon

But the domination of women’s sexuality in the U.S. is not done by men per se but by one political party, pretty much with the assent of its female members.

I don’t see liberal democratic/Democrat males playing much of a role, so I don’t see it as a gender thing.

@ Simon

So, you’re saying that males treat women like a resource and compete for that resource and that is how patriarchy comes about(?).

Rape is very likely a biological reality. Chimps are rapists too and they share most of our dna

Indeed. Humans have the capacity to rape, murder, lie, commit genocide against millions, enslave, spread pointless hate. They also have the ability to modify this behaviour, by making actually very small sacrifices to increase overall safety,…[Read more]

@ Simon

Males as a group don’t gang up against females as if we are in a competition with them for some kind of resource or advantage. That’s patent nonsense.

I think it goes back to the days when if you wanted meat, you had to go out and fight for the bigger critters that could sustain the group for a while. You can snare a rabbit or shoot a…[Read more]

if we accept that human males cooperate to dominate and control females..

I don’t. I know most religious societies do to a greater or lesser extent and that is one of the reasons why religions persist.

_Robert_ wrote:
Old fashioned parenting would go a long, long way. In fact, there is not much wrong with society that great parenting can’t help to make much better. We could use parenting schools, IMHO. I’m sure that government can spend and do more to help raise poor kids. Is that what we really want and does it even work?

Every ethnic gro…[Read more]

Question for y’all who claim not to be Islamophobic, if you’re not Islamophobic, what does an Islamophobe look like? How do you define it?

_Robert_ wrote:
Actually, I’m OK with that concept. But I know the far left isn’t. Black Americans do need to take a hard look at why black on black murder is the leading cause of death for young black males. Oh, but that’s racist! Remember, feelings are the most important thing, more important than murder.

So, if it’s not the much higher rate…[Read more]

_Robert_ wrote:
They don’t need your creepy patriarchy camera anymore with millions of young girls essentially doing porn in their bedrooms. They will have their fatherless children who will get to see mom in action. Just imagine how proud they will be!

Channeling Jerry Falwell’s ghost, I see. LOL

So, you’re seriously alleging that men w…[Read more]

_Robert_ wrote:
Murder happens at alarmingly higher rates in African American culture. I guess we should call African Americans a “murder culture”, huh?

On the one hand you seem to disapprove, but then that’s the same logic you apply to Islamic culture. They produce more terrorists than Western white culture so that means Islam is a terrorist cul…[Read more]

I briefly dated a girl who told me she couldn’t orgasm unless she was “taken.” I take that to mean the oxymoronic “consensual rape.”

The point is, there is no such thing as a rule that fits every case. That said, “No means no” is a good rule.

In my work in the porn industry I wouldn’t coerce a model to do anything she didn’t want to do (they…[Read more]

See, Robert is a prime example of covering up and pretending rape culture isn’t a problem (especially with his toxic tropes like “cat calling” can be okay though “not if he is ugly” bullshit). And he is more progressive than a lot of men. It is a prime illustration of how much progress is left to be made.

In my ice hockey locker room, I hear guys…[Read more]

OK, it’s on a spectrum from severe to more severe…

I find that this way of looking at it can miss a crucial point. It is common for the legal system to see it like this and this filters the way society views sexual violence. But this spectrum is not real. It is an arbitrary and subjective way of looking at it that ignores the victims view poi…[Read more]