tom sarbeck

Thanks Reg!  We’ve had a bit of snow here so I’ve been digging out my car.

Thanks Reg!

So the gist of the, what should be an utterly non-controversial statement in a non crazy universe is:

Women being raped is a problem, it is not a small problem, this shouldn’t happen, we can all do our part to stop it.

But I am Yet to read a person agreeing rape is a problem, not a small problem, that we should do what we can to stop it (except…[Read more]

The effort being made to Down play the prevalence of rape and sexual assault is sickening. This enables rape culture. You should be horrified by these statistics, not trying to fight them. Stop enabling rape culture.

You are indirectly victim blaming. Your entire commentary has been almost entirely about the victims and what they should do with little at all about rapists/predators and what they shouldn’t do (and how we can help stop them). We get rid of crime by stopping criminals and not enabling them. Again, people can do everything any other reasonable…[Read more]

You are indirectly victim blaming. Zheesh. We get ride of crime by stopping criminals and not enabling them. Again, people can do everything any other reasonable person would, and still be a victim. Your attitude simply enables things to go on the way they always have and makes it hard to change things.

I’ve just said I’ve been in rapey situations, and instead of anyone going “I’m sorry to hear that, that’s bad, those guys shouldn’t have done that” I get “maybe you should pick these guys more carefully”. This is classic rape culture enabling. The nicest seeming guy in the world can turn out to be rapey.

I’m glad to hear you haven’t come across…[Read more]

Rape is very likely a biological reality. Chimps are rapists too and they share most of our dna

Indeed. Humans have the capacity to rape, murder, lie, commit genocide against millions, enslave, spread pointless hate. They also have the ability to modify this behaviour, by making actually very small sacrifices to increase overall safety,…[Read more]

See, Robert is a prime example of covering up and pretending rape culture isn’t a problem (especially with his toxic tropes like “cat calling” can be okay though “not if he is ugly” bullshit). And he is more progressive than a lot of men. It is a prime illustration of how much progress is left to be made.

In my ice hockey locker room, I hear guys…[Read more]

Yeah I’m quite aware of that. I tend to date big guys (rugby player types) and I have been in more than a few situations where I had to physically stop them after asking them to a few times and them ignoring me. I started becoming super careful afterwards. And I am a big guy who can fight back. So yes, could not agree more, on the whole, women can…[Read more]

I agree, that some men get offended when rape culture is pointed out, as in, pointing out that other men engage in rape culture is tantamount to lumping them in with that rape culture. That is seriously problematic, the sensible reaction should be “yeah, that is a problem, I stand with all victims of rape culture”. But if all men are being painted…[Read more]